The Success Solution: How
You May be Preventing Your Own Success
Recently I worked with a client who found himself in a couple of situations many
of us have either experienced, or fear experiencing.
He called me, feeling down, frustrated and anxious about his future.
In the same week, he was laid off at work and experienced the end of a
six-year relationship. Ouch!
As we explored his situation, we discovered a couple of
things. First, he really didn’t
like his job and it was not leading him towards the financial success he
desired. And second, the
relationship that ended was an unhappy one for quite some time. Yet, he wanted to hold on to both of them and felt upset over
what had occurred.
You see, many of us find ourselves in similar situations in
life. We have something that
isn’t quite what we want, but if we were to lose it great fear and insecurity
There are two forces that drive your life and prevent you
from really having what you desire: Attachments and aversions.
We become attached to what is comfortable for us; things
that give us a false sense of having what we want; things that temporarily make
us feel better for brief moments only to leave us feeling rotten later.
These attachments can include unfulfilling jobs, relationships that lack
passion, bad habits such as smoking or overeating, and thousands of other
Our attachments often prevent us from making the space in
our life to have what we really desire. If
life is a buffet, we have our plates full of food we don’t really like meaning
there isn’t any room for dessert.
Hanging on to that unfulfilling job for its false sense of
security prevented this man from finding work he feels excited about doing –
or starting a business of his own. His
attachment to the mediocre relationship prevented him from exploring new
possibilities and meeting someone who really loved him, and someone he really
loved in turn.
We he saw this for himself, his energy took a dramatic turn
in the positive direction. He saw
new opportunity in his life instead of fear and loss. This one simple realization could likely change the course of
his entire life.
We also have aversions.
These are the things in life that feel uncomfortable to us.
It could be making an important phone call, or asking out someone we are
really attracted to, or getting in front of a room and sharing our brilliance.
Aversions prevent us from moving forward, taking action and manifesting
what we desire. Aversions prevent
you from acting on your immense potential.
What are attachments and aversions and how can we overcome
Attachments and aversions are nothing more than feelings.
Many of us say “I am frustrated”, but the truth is “I feel
frustrated”. I am having a feeling; I am not the feeling.
There is a wonderful technique called the Sedona Method
that teaches a simple set of techniques that allow us to effortlessly “let
go” of any unwanted thought or feeling – any attachment or aversion.
With these blocks removed, you will feel more confidence, more at ease
and more willing to take the bold actions that produce success.
We can fight and struggle and force our way to success.
We really can. I know. I have
done it. But ultimately it is a
hard, stressful, frustrating journey. I
think you know what I mean.
Or we can learn to easily overcome the resistance that
creates a flow to life. When we
overcome our attachments and aversions, we become truly free to be, do and have
whatever we desire. It’s easy.
It really is.
I encourage you to learn more about any program that
teaches you to “let go”. It is
the most powerful personal development tool I have ever learned.
My favorite program on the market is the Sedona Method course – the
original and still the best program of its kind.
The link below offers a free newsletter to learn more, and you can also
order a free introductory tape that includes a demonstration of one of the basic
releasing techniques they teach. I
encourage you to experience this program for yourself and discover the
exhilarating possibility of true freedom from your attachments and aversions.
Wishing you all the success and abundance you can allow
into your life,
John R. Barker
To learn more about the Sedona Method Program,
John R. Barker is a personal success coach, author and facilitator of The
Amazing Momentum Generator – a 35 day program for creating powerful results
that last a lifetime. To learn more
about John, see http://www.getSynergized.com